and here are a couple o peeks from the the Citrus Twist Kit Club March kits...
Thursday, February 25, 2016
Monday, February 22, 2016
Big hugs and thank yous to everyone who read and commented on my last post. It's nice to feel the love, and that others have similar issues. There's something comforting in knowing you're not alone, you know? Anyway. I didn't post to get sympathy or compliments.. but I do appreciate them... and I'm glad to have such receptive followers. I will keep the honesty coming. and I'll let you know how I progress with my OLW throughout the year.
Self love ties in nicely with what I want to share today. If you've followed along at all you know what I've embraced a Me Series idea for the past couple of years. I've decided to go ahead and continue this work in 2016. It started because I was noticing a big lack of including myself in our family history through scrapbooking. Sure, the journaling was in my voice, I was there for just about every moment. But the lack of photos of myself, and updates about what I was up to were staggering...
Doing a Me page once a month forced me to write about me (and include photos. I don't like being on that side of the camera). I love that each layout is like a little time capsule. I also love that doing these opened me up to writing about my stuff more regularly.. which you can see in my more recent Project Life pages.
So here is the collection of Me Series: 2014
and here is the Me Series: 2015 (most of them, anyway.)
and here is the first of 2016.
I'm looking forward to sitting down to create February's page later today. If you have a hard time including photos and stories about yourself in your documenting, I highly recommend taking on this series. It's like a gateway into including yourself in the big picture. You're important too! and did I tell you lately that I love you?
Wednesday, February 17, 2016
For the past few years I've jumped on the Ali Edwards band wagon for the One Little Word concept. 2014 was: Resolve... one heck of a word. It felt depressing at the time that that was the word that seemed to fit the best.. but it was exactly what I needed to get through. and I did.
For a much needed shift in gears, in 2015 I chose: Happy. (Read about that here if you so choose.)
I surrounded myself with it. I put up 2 ft industrial signage stating, "HAPPY," in my dining room, where I could see it every day. I made an effort. I really thought about what could make me feel happy more regularly.. what things I already had in my life that filled me with joy. I opened my eyes and tried hard to see through the clouds. It worked.
Don't get it twisted. You know I have to keep it real.. I did have plenty of bad days (some weeks). Ones where I wanted to retreat into a shell of myself.. ones where I scraped by, getting just the bare minimum accomplished. You don't just go from suffering from depression to "deciding you're just going to be happy." I'm not saying it was like that. No light switch happened when I chose the word (sorry to report, my friends.).. but it did help. To change my focus. To open my eyes. To seek out ways to work within me so I could recognize the happiness all around. Sort of happiness by osmosis. (and lots of therapy.
and drugs. and appropriate prescription medication.) After 2015 I can certainly say that I feel happier, more regularly.
SO. That was a nice start to feeling better. I feel closer to the "me" that I know I have been, and can be again. (which is a HUGE accomplishment if you're a resident of Depressiontown, USA.) but there is undoubtably room for more.
That's why this year I chose the word self-love.
(ok, ok, two words. I'm not usually a rule breaker.)
Above is a page I made about the word. (I'm basically sharing it with you to break up the novel this post is becoming and hoping you don't get bored and click over to online shopping until you finish reading.. if you do, I can't really blame you. Hello President's Day sales!)...
So now I'm going to be really real about why I would choose such a word(s). & I'm not sharing because I feel I need to explain myself.. it's my word, and I can choose what I want to (sung to the tune of: It's My Party).. I'm sharing this candid information because maybe you can relate. Maybe you understand. Maybe you don't, but will find it nice to read about someone else's
So here goes nothing...
I don't like myself.
I almost wrote hate. It's not that extreme.. but it might as well be, because it is, at times, debilitating. I would describe myself as a self-loather. Sure, I have some redeeming qualities.. sure, there are some things I do like about myself. But the bad outweigh the good, by far, in my mind.
My mind is a dark and lonely place. It bullies the crap out of me. Tells me I'm worthless. Unloveable. Dumb. Fat. Failure. A terrible wife and worse Mom. It tells me I can't do anything right and never will. It says that it doesn't matter how hard I try, I am still a pathetic loser. Basically, my mind is a giant asshole, and if it were someone I knew I'd tell them to piss right off. But somehow that doesn't happen.. because it's a part of me... ingrained during the shaping of my being. & that makes those self deprecating thoughts
As a result, I am pretty terrible at taking care of myself, and putting myself first on any list of importance. When it comes to needs, I'm always last. (saying all of this from MY perspective, not saying this is how my family, or anyone else, expresses they feel.)
Here is an example of what I'm talking about: I have a really hard time buying things for myself. I almost never (seriously, maybe a handful of times a year) buy myself shoes or clothing at full price. "Ah! well, that's not terrible, that's thrifty!" you say. "Yes," I respond. "I like a good bargain.. (in fact for years I told myself that's why I do this..) but that's not why." If I'm being really -deep down, dig into my guts and spill them- honest.. I head for the sale rack 100% of the time because I don't believe I deserve something that is full price. I don't feel worth it. In fact it's gotten worse with the ongoing depression. Now if something isn't 60% off or more I won't even consider it. Like, the 30% racks aren't cheap enough. I walk right past.. even if it's something I actually NEED. Like, a winter coat or bras that fit.
Yet when it comes to the kids I don't really bat an eye. Sure, I still look for good prices (I'm not an animal) but if something is full price and that kid needs it, or wants/has earned it.. I get it. Hottie decides that he is going to become a runner and buys 3 head to toe new outfits.. (this happened, like, once. dude really isn't a shopper. but still.).. I don't even flinch.. I just sigh and think.. "huh. I could never do that"... (not in a -I'm mad at him for doing it- way. Just in a -that seems like a healthy mind and I wish mine worked like that-way)
So why did this post turn into one big, fix Elizabeth, therapy session? Self-Love. I need it. Badly. My inability to love myself has been a disservice to me for as long as I can remember. (Hell, I even spent a good amount of time being MAD at myself for not being capable of liking myself... beating myself up mentally for the abuse I was dishing out mentally. Hellllllo, Crazytown!) It's time to reverse the direction of thinking. Allow myself to take care of me the way I take care of my loved ones. Allow myself to see the good stuff in me, celebrate it... and acknowledge the flaws as just that.. flaws that do not define or dominate me. Open myself up to the possibility of not just liking, but maybe even loving, me.
Phew! So that overshare post just happened. (and now things are a little awkward between us.) If you made it all the way to the end, you're a rockstar. Thanks for reading my saga. I'll keep you posted on how it goes.
PS- I just had a visual of what Depressiontown USA, and it's residents, would look like.. I gotta admit, it made me chuckle.
Posted by Elizabeth Gardner at 9:01 AM
Saturday, February 13, 2016
Guys! It's almost Valentine's day! Are you going to be showered with flowers and chocolates and treated to a delicious drunken romantic dinner? Yeah, me either. Hottie works so instead we are ordering in too much Chinese food and watching Netflix tonight... pretty much just like any other weekend. ;)
I did realize something pretty cool though... I think I've found my calling. I think I was put on this Earth to create funny Valentines...
or at least ones that say what people are really thinking, but in gorgeous flourish... It could be a thing, right? I'm going to get on this for next year. Look out, American Greetings...
and so that I can confirm to you how weird I really am... if I'm being truly honest. THIS is what I really want for a Valentine gift.. cuz nothing says I love you like a brightly colored tool chest.
It's SOOOO good in person, ya'll! I am freaking smitten over this thing... and I would have totally bought it for myself but it was $400 (and that's at TJMaxx)(insert crying and heavy sighs here).. but it comes with wheels! and really fancy padding for the drawers! and I did a little research (mostly to see if there was any possible way I could find it any cheaper than that) and found out it comes in TEAL! I really
need want this for my scrappy and art supplies. Like, bad. I'm obsessing, for real. Anyway, happy Valentines Day! I hope you get stuffed with chocolates and are given more flowers than you can count... cuz that seems way more normal than receiving a lady tool chest.
Posted by Elizabeth Gardner at 1:05 PM
Thursday, February 11, 2016
Guys! I have PURPLE HAIR! Like, neon purple (in the sun anyway). I'm obsessed.
Here are some heavily filtered photos. I love filters. Filters forever, I say.
Here is a non-filtered look of it in the sun. Sort of. Crazy, yeah?
Also, I've been working like a CRAZY person on all kinds of fun projects. I have 5 pieces under construction for our upcoming roller derby art auction. Four watercolors and one string art piece...
I have to say, this string one is my very favorite so far. It is rainbow-tastic. I kinda want to keep it. No, I really want to keep it! I hope someone is able to dish out a good amount of cash for it!
and I have some exciting scrap projects going too. It's both fun and awful to be in the middle of so many things at once. Feast or famine, yeah? What have you been up to lately?
Posted by Elizabeth Gardner at 10:34 AM
Thursday, February 4, 2016
Tuesday, February 2, 2016
Well, hello. I only have one post planned for the Citrus Twist Kit Club this month so I figured I'd go ahead and share what I made here. I used the Main Scrapbook and Embellishment kit.
For this one I used the main kit only..
The other pages were made using both kits..
All of the February kits are SO good! Check them out here. I want the Sprinkles and Pocket Life kits, myself. All of the scrapbooking!! Oh. and I have another spread using these kits to share with you. I made some Project Life pages too. I'll be back soon to share that.. and my new HAIR!!! (Spoiler alert: you can see it on Instagram if you really care to.)
Posted by Elizabeth Gardner at 10:24 AM